There is only one….

There is only ONE you so that makes you number 1!

My email signature use to say “There is only one Kiné”. Some people liked it and understood it. Other people thought it was arrogant, while others thought it wasn’t true.

It had two means. 1. That there is nobody else in the world exactly like me. And 2. that no matter what is going on around me I am the same. No matter what it looks like or who I am around I am the same. I may choice to let another side of me show but at the core I am the same. The same can also be true about you. There is only one you.

If you know your strengths and you are confident in yourself it will not matter how confident someone else is. That confidence should motivate and impress you. You are enough, you are the best and you are the only one who knows how to be you.

You can be the same at the core and still have different sides of you. I can also be described as a chameleon because I have something in common with so many different people. While talking with a new associate of mine we discussed whether being a chameleon was a good or bad thing and what it really meant. He was once called a chameleon as an insult. My take on insults is; turn it around. If the statement is true and you like that part of yourself take it as a compliment. If it is something you are trying to change about yourself take it as correction and keep changing. If it is not true than who cares what that person says, they don’t know you anyway.

But let’s say you do care what that person thinks. In that case you have to break it down to them and communicate so that they know you better and understand what is important to you. They also need to understand how you think and why you are they way you are.

I look at it like this. A chameleon has many colors inside. Many different ways of blending in with what’s around. For the chameleon this is a safety tactic and in some ways this may be the same for the human chameleon but bigger than that it is a living tactic. Having a little in common with a lot of people is a great way to live. It doesn’t mean you are trying to be all things to all people or people please, it means you are well rounded. Just because some people are one-sided and are not able to adjust the way you do doesn’t mean you are phony.

People should not be so judgemental. They should lighten up, see more of the world, express themselves freely and pray they have something in common with everyone they meet so they can explore themselves and others more. This can make the world more peaceful. This can help us get along better. This can be the difference between learning and growing and staying exactly the same for life. Is that what you want? Or do you like to explore, be open, adjust, broaden, change, relate and get to know every part of yourself. Live a colorful life with many patterns. Adjust when the time is right and get the most out of any situation you are in.

Learn to finesse your chameleon powers and get all that life has to offer.

Being able to hang with anyone, anywhere….Now That’s Presidential!   

Collect compliments

I wanted to write about this yesterday but I decided to take the day off and reward myself with lunch on the patio at Rosa Mexicano because it was such a nice day. I did something I wouldn’t ordinarily do. I went out and let someone else control the day. My neighbor asked me to join her as she went about her day. I had already done all the things on my to do list except this blog so I said yes. I didn’t know what to expect but it did not matter. I was enjoying the day and my neighbors great company.

Earlier in the morning I thought about the past week and reflected on some of the things that happened. I replayed conversations in my head. Most of which made me smile. I noticed that there were some people who thought I was a good, faithful, hardworking, calm and fun person to be around. I received many compliments last week from co-workers, friends, in my business meetings and even a few from semi-strangers.

There are times when you will shine and your good works will make the world light up and there are times when it seems you can’t hold a candle to all that is happening in the world around you. When this happens just count it all joy. Reflect on some old compliments and smile anyway.

I decided that I was going to hold on to the compliments I received last week and use them when negative energy tries to strike. It is one thing to get a criticism but when someone is too negative and brings you down get away. If you do not want to be lazy don’t surround yourself with people who remind you how lazy you are. Find people who motivate you and build you up with compliments. Be around people whose actions make you want to react positively.

If someone continues to feed you negative energy you will believe it. Bad company corrupts good character. I am hoping that good company can stimulate bad character. If you want to be better surround yourself with better company that compliments, motivates and appreciates you. Collect compliments from good people who like to spread joy. The rest is garbage. Seriously, throw the garbage away. When you receive positive energy collect it, hold on to it and let it fuel your dreams. When you receive negative energy discard it and move on. Do not dwell on it or let it slow you down.

Give out compliments and you will bless others with your kind words and positive energy. Smile more. You will begin to create a great feeling inside of yourself and reflect that to the world. When you reflect that beauty you will begin to get more compliments. You look great! You are doing a great job! Thank you for being a good example! I want to be like you one day! Collect all the compliments you get and let it fuel your dreams.

Live, Presidential….I dare you.

Letting compliments and criticisms build you up…Now That’s Presidential!

Who the hell are you? #knowthyself

Look inside yourself.

You cannot expect another person to MAKE you happy nor can you expect to make another person happy if you are not happy with yourself. Self-evaluation is a process when you look inside yourself and ask who have I become? Is this who I want to be and if not what am I missing. Self-evaluation can be painful and scary the first time you do it. If you are ready to change or if you feel you are unhappy with whom you are, you have to do it.

First ask yourself who am I, really! Be honesty and candid. Am I selfish, am I a push over, am I evil, am I a nice person? Keep going. Am I hard working, am I lazy, am I fun, am I boring? Chances are you will find that you are little bit of this and a little bit of that all rolled together. Narrow down the characteristics that lead in your personality. At times you are nice and at times you are not. At times you are lazy and at times you are not. When are you lazy? What motivates you? When do you have fun? When do you give of yourself? Who do you love most? This is difficult to do without the help of a consultant but try it. You will see consistence and be able to judge who you have become. I am here to help you. If you need my assistance, email me, we will set-up a complimentary consultation to help you get through your self-evaluation.

Next you have to decide if the person you have become is who you want to be. Are you happy with the decisions you have made? Are you satisfied with your way of making decisions? Do you treat people the way you want to be treated? Do you demand that people treat you the way you deserve to be treated? Do you like yourself? If not, it is time to make some changes.

There is nothing wrong with admitting that you do not like yourself. It is the first step to turning things around. The steps you take from here can help put you on the right track to loving, liking and rewarding yourself. This is also difficult to do alone but I know you can do it. If you feel you need assistance I am always here to help you.

I can help you because I have been where I am asking you to go. I have made mistakes, I have disliked myself and I have worked to change my life. In fact, I am still working to change my life. It is not easy but when you see the light at the end of the tunnel it makes it all worth it. My book The Art of Starting Over addresses the keys to discovering what’s missing in your lifestyle. Once you have make this discovery in the first part of the book, you move on to take measures to draw what you want into your life. You can be who you want to be but first figure out who you are.

Knowing who you are…Now That’s Presidential!