CLEAN YOUR ROOM OR ELSE
This blog is brought to you by contributing writer (and my editor) Francine Simmons. She is sharing her motherhood experiences with us. Thank you for sharing Francine.
I have seen adults who are only considered adults because of their age. Mentally they struggle and can’t handle even the smallest part of adulthood. I wondered why and how this happens. Was something missing in their childhood? Did their parents fail to allow them to grow? Were other people making decisions for them?
As parents we have an obligation to raise our kids to be responsible adults. Part of being an adult is making hard decisions. The other part is accepting these decisions. That’s how I was raised and how I am raising my daughter. It is important that she learn these lessons now because I will not always be there to make decisions for her and I want her to know that there are consequences for every action, decision and inaction.
I told my 14 year old daughter that her room has to be clean everyday. She could do it at night or in the morning, that was her choice. As time went on she was not cleaning her room at all. I started waking her up at 6:00a.m.every morning to clean her room. She hated this idea and saw it as me being unfair until I showed her how she could have done it differently. She had the chance to do it her way but she missed it. She began to realize that she needed to be pushed in order to stay focused. This simple change showed her how to be responsible, the consequences for her actions and to understand that excuses are just that…excuses. Ultimately, she was proud of herself and so was I.
As life goes on responsibilities will increase and decisions will get harder, so it is imperative to keep pushing kids past their comfort zone. Childhood is over by the age of 18 and expectations increase every year after that point. Whether you want to or not at some point our children have to grow up. When you put your foot down and when you give them the tools to survive you put them in a position to not only grow, but to succeed. We can’t always be there to guide our kids and nothing seems more rewarding then to see your child become an independent adult. So wouldn’t it be easy if we started with clean your room or else….?
YOU ARE ENOUGH
Has anyone ever told you that you are enough? You are just right the perfect recipe for being you. You are not too this or not enough that. You are the right shape, height, education level, the right thinker, the right race, the right gender, the right person, you are enough and enough is enough. So never second guess or belittle yourself and don’t let anyone else do it to you.
I once read that 75% of our thoughts are negative. We think the world is bad, politicians are corrupt, neighbors are inconsiderate, our teachers are lazy, our homes are too small and we are not proud of ourselves.
When the right time comes you will see that this opportunity was set aside just for you. This is not to say you don’t have to make any changes. This statement reminds you that there are many different ways to be beautiful. You are handsome enough to attract the perfect mate. You are smart enough to land the perfect career or open the perfect business. You are loving enough to raise the perfect children.
Stop thinking negatively about yourself. Change whatever you want, not because you are not enough, but because there is more to you than they have seen. More to you than you have seen. Be all the you, you can be. See yourself as half full not half empty.
When someone questions who you are, even yourself, you tell them “I am enough”. Everything that is needed to be the perfect you is inside of you so let it out. Do not think one negative thought about yourself. You are good, you are right, you are enough. Show it!
Being proud of yourself…Now That’s Presidential!
THE TIME IS NOW!
This is the time to do whatever you have been waiting to do. You no longer have to wait because the time is now. You no longer have to wonder when the right time will come because that time is here. Not a minute, hour or day from now but right now. It is up to you to get started, to never stop and to finish what you have started.
This is the time to do whatever you want. This is the time to receive whatever you have been waiting on. No more waiting, “it” is coming to you so meet “it” halfway.
The time is now to lose weight. The time is now to save more money. The time is now to spend more quality time with your family. The time is now to ask for forgiveness. Go buy a new watch and set it for right now. Get a new alarm clock and wake up to new ideas, passions and pleasure.
Some people think there will be other opportunities but why hope when you have it right now, right in front of you. Don’t wait for next time because it may never come. You are right here, right now so do it now or never. There is no such thing as soon.
No more drama, no more suffering, no more hurt and no more lack. You NOW have everything you need to do everything you want. The mark of success is on you now.
No more waiting…Now That’s Presidential!
MATERIAL THINGS COME AND GO BUT IF YOU FIND PEACE YOU CAN STAY THERE FOREVER.
There is a peaceful place that starts inside of you. When you build it up it will radiate and everywhere you go you will feel comfortable. You will find yourself in the best hotel, career, marriage, car and clothing. When you are at peace you do not need a bunch of material things to make you feel special. You will know that you are special and material things will come and go. While they are in your possession appreciate them but do not lust over them. When you do not have them be sure not to envy or covet them.
When you have made a decision to be at peace you will find yourself loving, appreciating and reacting to things differently. The happiest people don’t always have the best of everything. They make the best of everything they have. When you appreciate all your blessings big or small you put yourself in a position to be at peace and when you are at peace you are happy.
Being happy with what you have…Now That’s Presidential!
What is your favorite bit of wisdom? “A bird in the hand is worth two in a bush.” “People who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.” “What goes around comes around.” Whether you know exactly what these phrases mean or not you know somewhere deep inside there is some wisdom hiding there for you in between the lines and it will pop out just after you have made a big mistake. They say this and they say that but where are they when you are about to make a mistake and could use a crash course in wisdom. Hind sight is 20/20 and now that you have experience you know what the phrase means, but isn’t that a little late. It is clear that good judgment comes from experience and experience comes from bad judgment.
So, I encourage you not to be too hard on yourself. You are human and humans usually learn from experience. This year I want you to learn from others mistakes and advice so that you can get to your goals faster. This year’s direction for the Presidential Lifestyle blog is to give you a little bit of wisdom each week that you can add to your list of life lesson. And this time hopefully you get it before you make a big mistake. Maybe you can learn something you didn’t know or be reminded before you make the same mistake again.
Starting next week we will begin “A Crash Course in Wisdom.” Today we will reflect on our biggest mistakes and forgiving ourselves for them. Remember everything happens the way it is supposed to so in essence you did everything right. Today I want you to forgive yourself for your mistakes. Write a declaration, pledge or prayer to yourself. If you want help email me and I will help you. Here is an idea to help you get started. Feel free to use this one but I encourage you to be creative and add your own words.
I apologize for making the mistakes I made in the past, however, I am glad I made them because I know that everything happens the way it is supposed to. Knowing this makes me grateful for my lessons of the past. I commit to making well thought out ethical decisions that help me evolve. I forgive myself and others as I look forward to my growth.
Also, right a prayer or pledge that tells the Universe your plan for your life. If you need direction, again email me and I would be happy to assist you. You are going in the right direction and you will be there soon. Keep yourself safe and trust yourself more. You are wise and experienced.
Forgiveness…Now That’s Presidential!
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A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,700 times in 2011. If it were a cable car, it would take about 28 trips to carry that many people.
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Happy New Year everybody! Every new beginning is from some other beginnings end. Well today marks the day that you ended your old 2011 ways and begins your new 2012 ways. What ever you want to do in 2012 you will start today. If you read the previous blog, Resolutions & Evolutions, you should have already chosen your resolutions, your evolutions, your goals and your theme song(s).
This year I have committed to blogging a portion of my next book “A Crash Course in Wisdom.” In the book there is space for you to take notes and write down what this piece of wisdom means to you in your life and current situation. In the blog you can leave comments about what the post means to you and reply with your ideas. I will right one each week and I would love to get your comments, questions, feedback and to hear your experiences. Additionally, I will have a guest blogger once a month.
Stop focusing on who you use to be, what you use to do, what you use to have, who you use to know, your past relationships, your old mistakes or anything that is now in the past. It does not matter who you use to be (good, bad, or otherwise). All that matters is who you are now and who you are working to become. Right now at this particular time I am a financial and lifestyle advisor who is building a successful business and encouraging others to do the same. Live new! Start today. Forget all that is old in your life because that was then and this is now. You are on your way to becoming more amazing than you ever thought possible. I am giving you permission to start over and I know you will get it right this time. This is it, so lose yourself in this moment and every moment. Be the new you ever day of this year.
A fresh start…Now That’s Presidential!