In a perfect world how you see yourself is how others will see you, but this is not always what happens in the real world. Sometimes, we think of ourselves one way while others see use differently. We often get so caught up in what people will say that we can’t be ourselves. Which is more important to you how you see yourself, how others see you or that they both match.
If the way others see you is most important you may be tempted to people please and adjust your values. If it is more important to you how you see yourself you may be tempted to be selfish and arrogant. When creating your persona or character you should consider what others will think of you, especially if those people affect your life; like a spouse or boss. On the other hand, you also have to consider what makes you happy and as long as those decisions don’t hurt anyone, especially your love ones, everyone should be fine.
The first thing you should think about if you have not already is what words do you want people to use to describe you when you are not in the room. What feeling do you want them to feel when you leave the room? Do you want to be multi-talented or a specialist, easy going or high strung, good listener or talkative, life of the party or wallflower. If you want to be known as helpful then initiate assistance to others. If you want the title of friendly say hello and start genuine conversations. If anti-social is what you are going for then turn down invitations and stay to yourself. If you give some thought to the idea you want to leave people with first and purposely act according to these characteristics then you and your network will have the same perception.
Later you can determine if this is right for your life and your goals or if you need to adjust. Right now focus on exercising control over your reputation and self-esteem. If you get it right the first time you can adjust it as needed because you now have the recipe, you just have to change the ingredients.
When being you becomes easy…Now That’s Presidential!
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