In the book “The Four Agreements” Don Miguel Ruiz suggests that one of the agreements you should make with yourself is to not take anything personally. One of the reasons you should make this a practice in your life is because people do what they think is the right thing for them at the time. Their decision making process has very little to do with you. You also have to consider that people make decisions based on past experiences.
In most cases humans will chose the path that is most comfortable for them. When they have hurt you most of the time it was because it was more convenient or comfortable for them to hurt you rather than get hurt themselves. So when that happens, understand where it comes from and try not to take it personally.
You do not have control over what people do. You only have control over how you decide to react to what people do. What is interesting is that Don Miguel Ruiz says whether it is an insult or a compliment don’t take it personally. They should equally roll off your back. You should not be moved, be it positively or negatively, by every word, action or reaction someone else has. If you allow yourself to do that you will get lost and finding yourself amongst everyone else’s ideas of you will become difficult.
You must remain the same. Be calm and stay mild. Emotional roller coasters are stressful. Successful people limit stress that they can control. You can control how you decide to react to someone else’s actions. Make a decision not to take it personally.
Take the compliment, insult, anger or praise in and release it. It is not important because you already know who you are, what you are capable of and what you are doing. Stay unmoved and make decisions from a calm place uninterrupted by others actions. You are free.
Getting off the roller coaster…Now That’s Presidential!