Why do you hide your feelings? Women and men alike complain that nobody understands them or how they feel. These same people have walls up and are holding in their feelings, saying everything is fine. When you have a tough exterior and you try to hold back your emotions there is no way for anyone to really know how you feel. No way for them to get in unless you open the door or lower the wall.
People can try and guess but it is unlikely that they will get it right. This will make you feel like they don’t care, but the truth is they do. That is why they are trying to figure you out but if you keep the wall up they will never really get to know you. Only you know how you really feel and the only way anyone else is going to know is if you tell them.
The first thing you have to know is that it is okay to feel. Second, it is okay to feel “the way” you feel and third, it is okay to share your feelings with others. Now you will become more human and less robotic. You open yourself up for people to have more compassion and empathy for you when you need it. Not pity…just compassion. Compassion will not make you feel weak; it will make you feel whole and loved. When you share your feelings you will find that people may be able to relate, give you some insight, or simply just listen.
When you express yourself you release some of the tension and you can begin feeling better. If you hold your feelings inside you will feel tense and believe that nobody cares. They care, they just don’t know how to help or if you even want them help because you have your wall built up. Let the wall down for the right people and enjoy what it feels like to love and be loved the same way back. Feeling can be scary but it is not so bad. It is a great way to connect with the people you love, who love you.
Vulnerability…Now That’s Presidential!