The reason it can be so lonely at the top is because people forget to bring good people with them. The top is just like the rest of life except you have more. There is more for people to take from you, more for people to hate you about and more things for people to misunderstand about you. You will be used, you will be hated and you will be misunderstood because although your title changed, life did not change and people didn’t change. So if you were lonely at the bottom you will still be lonely at the top.
At the top everything is amplified. You become more of whatever you are and life becomes more of whatever it is. What that means is, when you get the bigger title, bigger bank account and bigger events everything is bigger, including the loneliness. You get to experience life’s good and bad in a bigger way. For this reason you should bring good people with you so you will not be lonely.
Sift through the people in your life while you are on your way and find the angels that can accompany you at the top. Share success stories and help each other when needed. Be open to different back grounds and different walks of life. Real friends don’t have to look like you they just have to have the same heart.
When you are successful people will try to ride your coat tail to the top. Don’t let them do that, these are not the people you want to bring. It is easier for them to pull you down than it is for you to pull them up. (That is physics 101.) If someone really has the energy you have motivate them and hold them accountable but don’t carry them. Ask them to hold you accountable too. When you guys get up to the top you can remember the journey and give good advice to those still on their way up.
Make clear choices about the company you keep. Be sure to find friends that compliment your weakness and be useful to each other. Bring hard working, truth telling, like minded individuals to the top with you and you will never feel lonely.
Choosing the company you keep…Now That’s Presidential