Success is getting what you want; happiness is acknowledging what you have

In a perfect world our hearts desire is our reality. In the real world reality is what we have and may not always be what we desire. How we perceive this dilemma is eventually what will help us live peacefully. There are some things in your life that are just going to come to you naturally that you will have no control over. It may be your family members, the way your body is shaped, the texture of your hair, your boss’s personality or even the school that happens to be in the neighborhood you currently live in.

It may sound as if I am suggesting that you should just resolve to the idea that “this is as good as it gets” but if you evaluate a situation and it appears that this is truly as good as this situation is going to get…. Then we have to except it the way it is until we are able to change it.

Having a list of things you would like to acquire or accomplish is important and can make you feel successful. However, success alone does not always work to create happiness. You may find that you love your career but you hate the city or the area your corporate office is in. Your house, car and clothes are nice but you can never seem to get along with your parents.

Changing your expectations of yourself, the people around you and your conditions may change your perception of your world. If your office was in a business district you would have to pay for parking, drive 30 minutes in traffic and deal with crowds at lunch time. If you knew that your parents were doing their best with what they had, you might lighten up and get to know them. If you got your haircut in a style that fit your face and hair texture instead of copying someone else, you may have more confidence about your appearance.

Progress and go after what you desire while you realize the beauty in what you have right now. Gratitude can change your attitude toward your life. The situation may not be ideal and you may want more for your future but right now there is some good in what you currently have. Find the good as often as you can. Move forward while appreciating and acknowledging the happiness that surrounds you naturally.

Seeing the good…Now That’s Presidential!


About Kiné Corder

Kine' Corder is a best selling author, speaker, and member of the Financial Therapy Association. Formerly a Morgan Stanley Financial Advisor and currently a Financial Therapist Kiné runs Presidential Lifestyle, a financial wellness company focused on wealth in all of it's forms. View all posts by Kiné Corder

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