Reality Casting Call – All types welcome to audition

The Real Housewives of Atlanta

Have you ever felt like your life should be the next reality show? Do you feel like your drama is better than any of the Housewives shows they have out there? Does the Spike channel need to consult you before they make their next move?

Whether you are married or single at some point you will have to come to grips with the role you play in the life of your significant other. Marriage is just a piece of paper. It does not legally make the person treat you any better. Being single does not mean you will forever be an extra. You can get a lead role you just have to be willing to work on a movie that may not be a block buster. Life can sometimes feel like one long audition for a movie with no ending. You audition and audition and you keep forgetting what role you were auditioning for.

Let’s breakdown the roles:

Lead – The story is about you. You are in most of the scenes and the rest of the cast waits for your direction especially your co-star. Your name shows up high in the credits. Your pay-off is high and you may even be qualified for residual income.

Supporting – You are important put not a priority. You are in some scenes but you are clearly not the star. At times you find yourself feeling like the star because you are putting your all into the role but then you see the credits and you realize you were not as important as you thought you were. When the movie is reviewed you can often go unnoticed. Your understudy can take your place at anytime. The show goes on with or without you.

Extra – You are rarely remembered and easily replaced. Your job is to fill the space. You usually have no lines and the few you do have could either end up on the cutting room floor or get you your next job. It is so up in the air. It is clear that this role is not going anywhere for you. You are just happy to be in the movie. For now that is good enough.

Where do you fall in this? Do you know what role you are taking? Is that where you want to be? You can have a really big, important lead role but that comes with a lot of pressure and responsibility. It also could come with a lot of expectations that could set you up for disappointment.

Supporting roles are sometimes easier but they leave a lot to be desired if a lead role is really what you want. A supporting role can be unfulfilling to one person and perfect for another. The extra role is only meant for someone who is just passing the time, having fun and really doesn’t know what they want. Being an extra is no real glory but for some that is ok. They only want a quick thrill with do dedication, responsibilities or promises.

When you compare these choices neither is bad as long as they are what you really want. They are only bad when you are settling for something that you truly want. Do not stop auditioning for lead roles if that is what you really want. If you decide to take a supporting or extra role while you wait do not fool yourself into thinking that the current extra role is something that it isn’t. If you cannot handle anything but an extra role, than stay in your lane. Don’t get confused or confuse others. You know what you are qualified for.

Knowing where you stand…Now That’s Presidential! 


About Kiné Corder

Kine' Corder is a best selling author, speaker, and member of the Financial Therapy Association. Formerly a Morgan Stanley Financial Advisor and currently a Financial Therapist Kiné runs Presidential Lifestyle, a financial wellness company focused on wealth in all of it's forms. View all posts by Kiné Corder

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )


Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: