Everyone has goals. Goals that we believe if we reach we will be happy. What I have discovered is the happiest people have reached their goals in four different areas at the same time. Pay attention to the fact that I did not say the most successful people. By societies standards successful usually is judged by the number of zeros in your bank account. That does not measure happiness. In fact, some of the most unhappy people are wealthy. I believe that happiness is when the things you want are the things you have and the things you want to do become the things you have done. Not by anybody else’s standards but by your own.
Did you set goals this year? Were they the same goals you have had for a while or were they new goals? The next step in the Self Business Plan is to set your goals. Go ahead try to recall your goals right now so that you can do this next exercise. If you have been sticking to your goals it should not be hard. However, if you have already given up on them it may take some work to pull them back up.
While you are trying to recall your goals get a piece of paper out and draw a line down the middle and across the middle like you will see illustrated below. Then write MENTAL, PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL in each one of the sections. The numbers represent how many goals you have in each area. You may only have one goal in each area or you may have more goals in one area than you do in another.
When you are writing your goals think about what you want to accomplish this year or what you want to add to your life. Each goal has a specific End State or result that it will add to your life. As you accomplish these goals in each area of your life you will find that you are completely happy. Here is a breakdown of what each goal should represent.
Spiritual goals are the goals that will help you free your soul. Write down how you plan to build your connection with whatever higher being you believe in.
Mental goals are education, mental well being and other thinking goals like taking a class, learning something new, pursuing a hobby or ways to change your thinking process.
Emotional goals will list the things that will elevate your reactions to problems and situations. Find things that will help you get your feelings out, learn to react differently, change your feels or reduce your stress and worry.
Physical goals are the more tangible ones. These goals include income, career, lifestyle, health and parenting. Set goals that will help you account for your day to day time and energy.
Each goal should have an End State. For example if your physical goal was to work out 3 days a week, then your End State will be to lose 20lbs.
Make sure your goals are realistic, actionable and measurable. You should be able to reach these goals on your own, know what it takes to put them in action and be able to measure whether or not you reached them. If necessary add a due date so that you do not procrastinate.
As I always do I will give you an example using my own life and hopefully this will help you through this exercise. Feel free to hold me accountable for my goals and I welcome any assistance you may be able to offer. Thank you in advance for thinking of me and sending me positive energy. If you would like me to hold you accountable send me an email and I will do what I can to help you reach your goals. My network is your network. firstname.lastname@example.org.
Your goals are the things you want to add to your life. While resolutions are the things you want to subtract from your life. I want you to re-resolute often. Old habits die hard so do this throughout the year until we have built new more productive habits.
Here are my resolutions from January:
- I will not lend money for 12 months. I can give time and energy instead of money. If I give money it is a gift not a loan and I can have not have expectations for the money. Nor can I have any control over the result.
- Maintain a diet that is 80% healthy and 20% unhealthy. Stay away from foods I am allergic to.
- Do not obsess over anything or anybody. Take it easy.
End State: Feel more educated, speak in more countries, connect with myself and my family and friends.
End State: Stay in shape, advance my career, share my message with the world, increase my income.
End State: Experience true love, lower my stress, build my confidence in others.
End State: Share and receive spiritual guidance, restore faith that there is good in the world, spread love throughout the world.