Strengths & Weaknesses – “Create Your Perfect Lifestyle” (Step 5 of 12)

When determining your perfect lifestyle and how to get there it is important to determine your strengths and weaknesses. It is my belief that using your strengths to get something done is the most time and cost-effective way to live. Only use your weakness when there is no other way. Do you know your strengths and weaknesses? Knowing them and utilizing them properly will help you save time and money while you CREATE YOUR PERFECT LIFESTYLE. Most people have some idea of what their strengths and weaknesses are but my not want to admit it. Some people are disillusioned and don’t want to face the truth about being weak but doing so will save you heartache later. It is not a pretty word and it is not comforting but it is what it is, so admit it.

Right now your job for step 5 is to write a list of your strengths and weaknesses. What are you “drop dead” at? You know what I mean by “drop dead”? You have heard of drop dead gorgeous right? Well some people are drop dead creative or drop dead smart or drop dead thoughtful. What are your strengths? What are you good at that not many other people are? Start with the top and work your way down. Write as many as you can think of. There are things that you can do with ease. These are your true strengths. There are also things that you can do just as well as others. These are simple strengths. I consider strengths the things you do not need much help with. Are you organized, fast, resourceful, healthy, patient or a quick thinker?

Now that you have given some thought to the first part search your soul for your weaknesses. What are your true weaknesses? What things are you just totally awful at? What are some things that you need help with? What do you do that you wish someone else could just do because you know they would do it faster, better or easier? Write down the things that do not come easy to you. Your simple weaknesses are the things that you can do if you have to but you would much rather pass them off. Are you unorganized, colorblind, unhealthy or do you over-spend?

There are going to be things that we are not so good at and it’s okay if we admit that to ourselves. This way you can make it better. Again, I believe that you should utilize your strengths to get closer to your goals and hire someone to fill in where you are weak. If you do not have the money to hire someone make sure you are putting systems in place that will help strengthen your weaknesses.

For example: If you know that you are always late then set your clocks a little fast so that you leave early thus getting you there on time. The trick is to not let yourself turn the time back mentally. You have to believe it’s the right time if you want the trick to work. Another example: If you are forgetful and you tend to miss appointments make sure you write down every appointment. Also have a reminder alarm set or be sure to check your calendar everyday.

The exercise is not to get you down but designed to help you be realistic. You can write one list at a time or work on both of them at the same time. Whatever makes you feel better. I always want to let you know that I practice what I preach or that I have done what I am asking you to do so here are a few of my strengths and weaknesses.

Strengths: helpful, common sense, book smart, good listener, organized, athletic, great hair, lucky, good instincts

Weaknesses: Obsessive, ADD, a know it all, always hungry, risky, nice, poor speller, likes to be comfortable at all times

Both list are longer but I just wanted to give you a taste so that you could see that I am honest with myself and you could get to know me a little better. Make sure you make a list of your strengths and weaknesses so that you are familiar with them. My suggestion is to find ways to lean on your strengths and find things that eliminate your weaknesses. I do not see a reason to work hard on things that are not going to change so do not worry about trying to change your weaknesses if they are just a part of who you are. Spend more time on finding ways to CREATE YOUR PERFECT LIFESTYLE.

You can call it lazy or you can call it smart. It doesn’t matter to me because when you reach your perfect lifestyle most people are going to call you happy and that’s what is important, being happy. I always like to know how you are doing so feel free to email me with your updates.

Kine' Corder & Artist Timothy Hedden. He stopped me in the airport and asked me to take a picture with him and his Majesty Angle painting for the newspaper. Crazy stuff like that happens to me often.

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About Kiné Corder

Kine' Corder is a best selling author, speaker, and member of the Financial Therapy Association. Formerly a Morgan Stanley Financial Advisor and currently a Financial Therapist Kiné runs Presidential Lifestyle, a financial wellness company focused on wealth in all of it's forms. View all posts by Kiné Corder

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