Ask to receive – “Create Your Perfect Lifestyle”

We are half way there. This is step 6 and today we discover that you have to ask to receive. This is a hard one for me. I am not the best at asking and delegating but when I do I find it makes life better. I am often afraid that people will let me down or say no. That is way I sometimes try to handle everything. This is not the way to live. You are not an island and admit it, there are people who are better at some things than you are. We just did our list of strengths and weaknesses a few days ago. During this exercise you probably discovered the things that stress you, make you wanna holla and throw up both your hands.

Your job today is to make a list of your needs. What do you think are your biggest challenges? What is holding you back? What tasks could you pass off to someone else? You can use your list of weaknesses to help you with this list of needs. If you know you are bad at returning phone calls then put down on your list that you NEED someone to return phone calls for you. If you know that you are bad at making sure you eat properly. Then put down on your list that you need a dietician or at least a system to help you choice healthier choices. What you are doing is strengthening your weaknesses by delegating. EVERYTHING THAT HAS TO GET DONE DOES NOT HAVE TO GET DONE BY YOU. I learned this a few years ago and I teach it to my clients to help make their lives easier.

Make a list of your resources. Who do you have around you that can help you with your challenges? Who can you meet or get to know that can help you? What systems or programs can you utilize to reduce or eliminate your challenges. This step is all about making your life easier, asking for help, delegating and utilizing your resources. It is important that you practice giving and receiving. A friend of mine taught me that you should always have a working list of needs so that if anyone ever asks you “how can I help you”, you can answer them quickly and efficiently.

 The title of this blog is: Ask to receive. That is because it is not always enough time to wait for someone to ask you if you need help or to tell people your needs and hope that they catch the hint and help. Sometimes you will have to actually ask for the help. Do not be afraid of being turned down or disappointed.

As you go through your list of needs write down next to each need how you can fulfill the need. You may have some things in your life that can help fill the need. If not,  you may have to work to find the tools, people or resource to assist you.

This is an important step as you CREATE YOUR PERFECT LIFESTYLE because this is the step that will determine if you will be able to keep going. The things that are difficult for you to do will slow you down and tire you out. If you have to do them all yourself you may not have the wherewithal to make it to your goals without some help. I am a fan of help. It doesn’t mean you are not capable. It means you were smart enough to know how to enjoy your work and your lifestyle.

Get your list going and start delegating. I know you will enjoy the process more. Make it easy on yourself. Struggle is over rated. Email me and let me know how it is going.

P.S. Next blog is a conversation with author Mo Stegall where we talk about his lifestyle before, during and after writting his book “Against All Odds I Can Be“.


About Kiné Corder

Kine' Corder is a best selling author, speaker, and member of the Financial Therapy Association. Formerly a Morgan Stanley Financial Advisor and currently a Financial Therapist Kiné runs Presidential Lifestyle, a financial wellness company focused on wealth in all of it's forms. View all posts by Kiné Corder

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