The Art of Starting Over

It is 2011 and some of us are starting over (again). It may feel unwelcomed or it may feel great. Either way it is what it is. Make a commitment to get it right this time. You have to do the best with what you have. Some of the things in your life will have to go, while others need to stay in order to help you get where you need to be.

I have started over a few times myself. One of those times you may know about. It was after being on national television talking about one of my most personal secrets. Then last year I started over again and I decided to declare 2010 the beginning of the most amazing 10 years of my life. Now some of you know that my lifestyle is pretty amazing and I pursue my dreams everyday. That is still my attitude but I am adding a few things to that old attitude that will make me unstoppable and unmeasurably happy.

For those of you that don’t know in 2003 I was on ABCs Extreme Makeover. I had reconstructive surgery on my lips. It was the hardest thing I had ever done. I had to admit to myself that I didn’t like something about myself. Most people knew me as a confident person and that was because I worked very hard to get past the things I didn’t like. When I had the opportunity to fix the problem I put all pride aside and jumped on the opportunity. With a little luck, blessings and preparation I got a gift that I didn’t even know I was praying for. There is more to that story but I will give you more details as the journey continues. So let’s fast forward.

I was on top of the world. I was on Oprah, several TV shows. Got my SAG card and many celebrities knew me on a first name bases. I started a company and my partner and I were making great money. At the same time we were making one huge mistake. We were so happy that we could help others that we gave away too much. We gave away too much money, too much energy, too much love, too much time and way to much trust. Neither of us had enough left for ourselves, the company or others. That taught us both a very valuable lesson. There is more to this story too but it will come out as we go through the journey and you will learn some life lessons through my mistakes. So that brings me to the reason why I had to start over again.

I had the world right in the palm of my hand and I gave it away. Sometimes I believe God was proud of me but disappointed at the same time. So I prayed and I told God if you invest in me I will invest in your people. I mean it. When I post my 2011 resolutions you will see that I am not lending out any money in 2011 and you will think I am breaking my promise to God. I can’t help poor people if I am one of them.

The truth is if everyone who owes me money would pay it back I wouldn’t have to work for almost two years. Exactly I have given away almost two years of salary with out even a dollar returned. So this year I am giving advice, time, energy and love. If that is not enough than I am sorry. You will have to get it from someone else.

Remember how I said when I got the opportunity to do Extreme Makeover I had to put my pride aside. Well that is what you are going to have to do too. You will have to give up being prideful or caring about what other people think of you. You will have to have enough self-esteem to go forward with out any support. You have to know that what you want is worth everything you have. Did you hear what I just said. Know that what you want is worth everything you have. So if you believe your dreams are bigger than what you have right now. Sacrifice. Tell God he can have all of it if you really believe there is more to come. It’s time for you to learn The Art of Starting Over and feel good doing it. I’m with you all the way. Let’s go. Email me right now and I will send you the free ebook “Self Business Plan” This will help you set the stage for your new Perfect Lifestyle.

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About Kiné Corder

Kine' Corder is a best selling author, speaker, and member of the Financial Therapy Association. Formerly a Morgan Stanley Financial Advisor and currently a Financial Therapist Kiné runs Presidential Lifestyle, a financial wellness company focused on wealth in all of it's forms. View all posts by Kiné Corder

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